Your mental wellbeing is everything
Hands down it whips the ass of everything else. Money, career, relationships; it won’t mean a thing unless we take the time each day to look after ourselves. If this means saying no more, letting go of something or walking away from someone then so be it.
Never forget the importance of living, actively
Sometimes we let life wash over us. We do the same thing and start to see problems rather than solutions. We say ‘yes, but’ and start to believe we cannot do what we genuinely want to do. We lose our power and start leading a passive life, stuck in a rut with no way out.
Nothing kills passion and enthusiasm and wonder and excitement more than a person viewing life through the lens of apathy.
Hold on to the importance of being spontaneous, curious, interested. Start by replacing ‘yes, but’ with ‘yes, why not?’
Fix the issue by talking to the right person
We frequently address issues about someone by going to someone else about it. It is amazing how we continue to do this and make life harder for ourselves.
There are usual good reasons – we don’t want to hurt them; we want some advice first or are unsure about how to approach it – but in some cases it creates unnecessary dissatisfaction or tension.
Do not waste energy by going off-beam. Speak to the right person and save time, effort and emotional stress.
Showing vulnerability does not make you weak, it makes you human
Many people fear intimacy. We carry scars from our past that directly affect our future and sometimes we don’t even recognise it. We mistake emotional self-harm for self-defence and risk losing what we need most.
People bond more over vulnerabilities than shows of strength. By revealing our true selves, we create empathy, deeper connections and love. Learn to feel the fear, do it anyway and allow your closest relationships to bloom.
Missing someone or something does not mean wanting or needing it back
As life moves on, so do we. Circumstances vary; sometimes we decide to take a different path, or we are unexpectedly forced onto a new road. Even if it was absolutely the right decision, it is perfectly normal to miss them/it.
Moving on or healing is an intense process and our emotions battle with our rational mind.
Your feelings are perfectly normal. Acknowledge them, yes, but try not to wallow. Keep looking forward: remind yourself of where you are today and where you want to be tomorrow.
The only person who can help you… is you
If you keep looking in the wrong direction, keep repeating the same patterns, keep believing you’ll be hurt again or keep expecting someone to rescue you then, like a runaway train, the track will end and you’ll crash and burn.
Take responsibility and accountability for your own life, who is in it, and where you want to take it. See that investing in yourself is time well spent. Like Abraham Lincoln said ‘if you have eight hours to chop down a tree, spend six hours sharpening your axe’.
Remember: YOU rule your realm – so stick that crown on your head and go reign.