Why it’s not OK to ask about babies

In a few days time I will be 41 and I don’t have children yet. I am childless. Or childfree depending on your view. There is, depressingly, a clumsy and at times insensitive approach towards women like me and it is this: ‘How do you feel about having babies?’ ‘Do you even want children?’ I […]

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Advice to my 20-year-old self

There’s no such thing as no strings attached. While we remain emotionally-driven creatures there will always be strings. It’ll get you in the end. Life’s not fair but you can be. Compassion and fairness are your major strengths. Hold them close and in the very least be consistent. Kiss chase is for playgrounds. If he’s […]

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Take a break to prevent yourself breaking

Pppffft. Do you ever feel like that? Pppffft. Like a balloon deflating. There’s a billion things to do but instead I do nothing. Feel useless, hopeless. No cause for celebration. There’s a puncture and I’m taking myself down. Bah. Pppffft. I am useless and hopeless. See how these feelings run away, spiral out of control? […]

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Alcohol-free living: one year in!

Somehow or other, it has been a year since I cut alcohol out of my life. Can I just say: wah-hoo! In those 12 months, lots of people have asked me what life is like without it. Well, life is much the same as before but better. It’s like the filters have been sharpened and […]

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Remembering why I run

After eight hours at work, I came home, changed into my running kit and headed out the door into the brisk cold. Freedom! Now, I’m drinking hot chocolate feeling fuzzy inside and writing this blog post to you. In an earlier post, I talked about my intention to complete RED January. Well, I’m entering the […]

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Play to your strengths in 2019

As we meander towards 2019, thoughts may be turning towards new resolutions. You may, like me, be ruminating on 2018 (where did THAT go?! Seriously!) I used to dread the new year. I would compare myself to others who had accomplished so much and castigate myself for failing to achieve what I’d vowed I would […]

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Simply: Be

There is so much focus on being something. It’s almost as if we are all working to be someone else, somewhere else, with something else in our lives. Societal messaging bombards us with how to ‘be’. Be better, be smarter, be more productive, be helpful, be efficient, be kind, be richer, be healthier, be interesting, […]

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Going sober: Alcohol-free living, six months in!

Today marks my 180th day of choosing an alcohol-free life. That’s six months. Six! Sometimes I can’t believe I’ve reached this milestone. I feel proud and happy. Yes, it’s been tricky at times but I can honestly say it’s been a great decision. The day I decided to quit was following a Sunday session on […]

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A very British walk on Dartmoor

Some people feel the rain, others just get wet.” Bob Marley   It’s December, It’s Britain. It’s raining. What else is there to do when it’s drizzling continuously, blowing a hooley and the sky is a shade of grey Farrow and Ball calls ‘elephant breath’? Well, there’s only one thing for it: stick on a […]

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