Why compassion is an antidote to pain

The announcement about the awful suicide of Caroline Flack stopped me in my tracks last night. In death, there never seem to be words that feel right. Sadly, it feels all too late. I know what it’s like to want to die. While I am acutely aware my situation is very, very different, if you […]

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Alcohol free living: 600 days then and now

Do you ever look back at yourself and wonder what the hell was going on? I do. Sometimes it’s not pretty either. In my drinking days, particularly in my 20s, you’d probably have looked at me and thought I was a laugh. Up for a good time. I see photos of a smiley girl with […]

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Why I love/hate running

It f*cks you up, running. It may not mean to, but it does.  You know those people (me) who talk about how great running is for our physical and mental wellbeing? And those people (me again!) who write about the positive impact it’s had on them?  Well, forget all that for a minute. Let’s talk […]

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New year. Same you.

Congratulations! You’ve nearly completed 2019. How are you feeling? A bit worn out? Oh-so-bloated from the cheese, chutney and Celebrations? Fed-up already with the howls of ‘new year, new you’? I used to arrive at this point feeling burnt out. For a long time, toasting January involved Prosecco and passing out. I’d resolve to be […]

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How many times have you bullied yourself?

In a recent interview, singer Melanie C describes therapy as ‘bloody great’. She’s dead right. During therapy, one of my biggest epiphanies was uncovering the link between my early life experiences and inner critic, then taking action to break the pattern. Let’s face it: we all trash talk ourselves. Everyone has an inner dialogue, both […]

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Learn the art of doing nothing

“Life is what happens to you when you’re busy making other plans.” – John Lennon I’d forgotten how much I like doing nothing. By that I mean properly zoning out. This morning I spent time staring into space, watching clouds scudding across the sky. My mind wandering aimlessly. This came about after reading Editor Jo […]

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Advice to my 20-year-old self

There’s no such thing as no strings attached. While we remain emotionally-driven creatures there will always be strings. It’ll get you in the end. Life’s not fair but you can be. Compassion and fairness are your major strengths. Hold them close and in the very least be consistent. Kiss chase is for playgrounds. If he’s […]

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