New year. Same you.

Congratulations! You’ve nearly completed 2019. How are you feeling? A bit worn out? Oh-so-bloated from the cheese, chutney and Celebrations? Fed-up already with the howls of ‘new year, new you’? I used to arrive at this point feeling burnt out. For a long time, toasting January involved Prosecco and passing out. I’d resolve to be […]

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Why it’s not OK to ask about babies

In a few days time I will be 41 and I don’t have children yet. I am childless. Or childfree depending on your view. There is, depressingly, a clumsy and at times insensitive approach towards women like me and it is this: ‘How do you feel about having babies?’ ‘Do you even want children?’ I […]

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Advice to my 20-year-old self

There’s no such thing as no strings attached. While we remain emotionally-driven creatures there will always be strings. It’ll get you in the end. Life’s not fair but you can be. Compassion and fairness are your major strengths. Hold them close and in the very least be consistent. Kiss chase is for playgrounds. If he’s […]

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My tips on being more resilient

I haven’t been well recently. I was floored by a virus for the best part of a week and it’s left me with a cough you’d expect from a 20-a-day B&H smoker. I had a few sobs here and there; rasping little pity parties for one, but really looked after myself. I slept, took tablets, […]

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Love, vulnerability and being you

As I write this, my Twitter feed is filled with romance, love and hearts. It’s St Valentine’s Day and the world is soppy. My story today is about love, it’s about vulnerability and it’s about making today the day for you to pack in the relationships that leave you feeling shit. I’ve talked elsewhere about […]

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